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My Spouse Just Found Out I Cheated. What Should I Do Now?

March 30, 2015

If your spouse just found out about your affair, I imagine your world has turned upside down. You're probably feeling very scared and confused. You might also feel incredible anguish and shame, especially when you see the look of pain on your spouse's face. You can tell what a huge impact your affair has had, that dark days are ahead. Maybe you're now wondering if it's even possible to save your marriage... I understand how upset you are. This is indeed an incredibly tough spot to be in. I hear from someone everyday who is in the same spot you are: they've been leading a double life for a long time or they made a serious mistake just one time...

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I Just Found Out My Spouse Cheated On Me. Now What?

March 30, 2015

If you've just discovered that your spouse is cheating on you, I am so sorry. This is such a shocking realization. You probably feel like you're living in a nightmare. Everyday I get a message from someone who's in the same spot as you: they're shocked, devastated, betrayed, horrified, blind-sided, and profoundly hurt. They tell me, "This wasn't supposed to happen to me!" and "This is the most painful experience ever!" I know it is, hang in there, you can get through this and I'm going to help you figure out exactly what to do. First, know that your feelings are so understandable and so normal. You are not going crazy, you are not losing your mind. You are just...

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New Blog Post - The Right Way To Fight With Your Partner

February 22, 2015

In this week's blog post, I discuss a recent interview with Rob & Kristen Bell on how to fight fairly. We tend to think that we should NEVER fight and that if we stop fighting altogether, it means we have a fabulous relationship. Candidly, this is not what we should aim for. We need to fight, we need to express our thoughts and ideas, especially when we don't agree. But how we do it is key. We need to find ways to respectfully and thoughtfully disagree. You can read the blog post here: The Right Way To Fight With Your Partner. You can join our conversation about this on Facebook here: Dr Kathy's Facebook Page.

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