As we wrap up 2019, it's time to think about what you really want for yourself and your relationship in the new year. Do you want to fight less? Communicate more effectively? Feel closer? No matter what your goal, the new year is a perfect time to spruce up your relationship. Here are a few things you can do to make yours shiny and bright as we start 2020... View Post

The holidays aren't joyful for everyone. In fact, for many, the holidays remind us of what we're missing... or more specifically, who we're missing. My mother passed away suddenly 7 years ago, just before the holidays, and I remember the exquisite pain of that first Christmas. It was so overwhelming that my sister and I only had the energy to decorate a branch. View Post

Ratul asks: “Hey Dr. K, I’m 32 and my GF and I have been dating for 3 years. I’m thinking of proposing this New Year’s Eve, how do I know that we’re ready to get married?" Great question, Ratul. Here's my two cents... you know you're with the right person and ready to get married when:

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Eric writes, "Dr. K, should we stay together for our kids? I've been married for 14 years and honestly, the last 5 have been miserable. We have two kids that I adore and they're the reason I have been trying to make it work, but I just can't do it anymore..." View Post

Today is my 20th wedding anniversary and to celebrate this milestone, I thought I'd share the 20 things we do to keep our marriage happy and healthy! 1. Talk nicely to each other, especially when you're mad. 2. Really be a partner, jump in there and help, don't wait to be asked. 3. Make time for each other, every day and every week. 4. Support each other's passions.

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A few weeks ago, I found myself grumbling about all the things on my holiday to-do list... "I have to address all the cards." "I have to see who I have gifts for and who I still need to shop for." "I have to take Dad out to do his shopping." ...and on and on. I have to, I have to, I have to! Fina... View Post

More and more, people are coming to talk to me about a spouse or a loved one who is suffering from a personality disorder, usually borderline personality disorder (BPD). If someone you love has been diagnosed with BPD, or if you suspect that they may be suffering from BPD, this page is for you! I... View Post

"What can I do to make my husband feel really loved? Not like he's just some repair guy living at the house, but really loved." - Michele, Arizona. Hi Michele. LOL. Yes, we don't want your husband feeling like he's just a repair guy!The answer to your question is that it depends on what makes HIM... View Post