I want to help you understand what’s been happening to you — not just emotionally, but neurologically — since the betrayal. Because when you’ve been betrayed, it doesn’t just hurt your feelings. It shatters your sense of safety. And that injury is not just psychological — it’s biological. Betrayal is a huge trauma. Your brain and body register it as such… and when you understand that, so many of your symptoms start to make more sense. So let’s talk about exactly what happens neurologically when you experience betrayal.

One of the most common questions I hear from couples in affair recovery is: How do we know if we’re okay now? Is there some sign, some moment, where we can finally exhale and say, We’ve made it? Healing after infidelity is not a straight line. There are good days and hard days. But over time, there are signs that show a couple has done the work to truly repair and rebuild—not just sweep the pain under the rug, but face it together, grow from it, and create something stronger. Here are some of the clearest signs that a couple is not just surviving, but thriving, after betrayal.

If you’re healing from an affair or navigating the heartbreak of infidelity recovery, Eckhart Tolle’s teachings can be a powerful source of comfort and insight. His work reminds us that even in our darkest moments, there is still presence, peace, and purpose—and that sometimes, the worst of times lead to the most profound growth. Last Friday, I had the opportunity to attend a lecture by Eckhart and in this post, I share five lessons from that evening to support your healing journey and help you begin to rebuild from betrayal.