I'm thrilled to announce the release of my new book, The Courage to Stay: How To Heal From an Affair and Save Your Marriage. This book on infidelity is packed with all of the strategies and tools I've learned over the last 22 years as a relationship psychologist. Get the proven and practical advice that you need to truly heal from cheating. Free preview available exclusively on Amazon.

Dr. John Gottman of the Gottman Institute in Seattle found that if a couple exhibits 4 behaviors - criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness - that he could predict with over 90% certainty that they would divorce. Gottman found that if some, or all of these behaviors were present with enough frequency, the connection and friendship at the heart of a marriage would die. And once that happens, it's hard for couples to turn the relationship around or stay in the relationship.

Yes, you can truly recover from an affair. As I have worked with hundreds of couples over the last 22 years, I've found that you need to do these 8 things in order to truly recover: (1) You need to have the affair end and no (or very, very little) contact with the affair partner ever again. (2) You need to have a conversation with your partner where they tell you everything about what happened (except for graphic sexual details).