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If you’re looking for marriage counseling or couples therapy to heal from an affair, infidelity, or betrayal, it would be my honor to assist you.
Few things hurt more than infidelity. Everything you thought you knew is turned upside down in an instant. It can feel like the ground has suddenly dropped out from beneath you. Your whole life story comes into doubt: “Was anything real? What else don’t I know?” Beneath all of this, there’s often a deep sense of helplessness. Betrayal challenges our most basic assumptions about trust, safety, and love. And if you are the one who strayed, you see the pain and devastation you’ve caused and may be immediately overcome by despair, guilt, and shame.
When couples come to me for help after infidelity, they are often carrying so much pain: fear, grief, anger, hopelessness. I want you to know I see all of that - and I understand how it feels. I have been where you are now. This is why I have dedicated my career and private practice to helping couples hike over “Affair Mountain.”
I believe in you and in your ability to heal. I believe your relationship can grow stronger, even after betrayal. Sometimes, the affair becomes the “best worst thing” to happen - not because it isn’t devastating, but because out of this pain, a new relationship can emerge. A relationship built by two people with deeper compassion, empathy, and communication, able to connect in ways they never could before.
How We Can Work Together
I provide private consultations and coaching designed to give you clarity, direction, and tools you can use right away. When you’re hurting after betrayal, you deserve more than generic advice or a one-size-fits-all approach. My entire practice is focused on affair recovery, so you don’t have to waste time explaining your pain - I already understand the unique heartbreak of infidelity. This isn’t just part of what I do - it is the center of my work and the calling of my career.
For more than 25 years, I’ve had the privilege of helping thousands of couples rebuild after infidelity. Through that journey, I’ve gained not only clinical expertise but also a deep sense of responsibility to share what I’ve learned. That sense of calling inspired me to write extensively on affair recovery, create educational videos that reach millions online, and publish two books devoted to helping betrayed partners and couples find their way forward. I’ve also partnered with colleagues on original research and led one of the largest clinical studies ever conducted on couples affected by infidelity.
All of this work comes back to you. Because I combine professional experience, original research, and my own lived journey of betrayal and recovery, I can offer strategies that are practical, compassionate, and proven to help. My goal is to help you understand betrayal as a trauma you can heal from—and to give you the tools, guidance, and hope you need to do it.
Today, instead of traditional weekly therapy, I offer consultations and coaching. This allows me to support more couples while continuing my work as an author, teacher, and researcher in the field of affair recovery and betrayal trauma. Most couples find that meeting with me monthly or every other month provides the direction they need, while leaving space to practice the strategies we discuss. If that feels right to you, I would be honored to share what I’ve learned and help you move toward healing, strength, and connection.
How to Take the Next Step
If you are ready to begin this journey of healing after infidelity, I invite you to schedule a private consultation. We will talk through your story, create a plan, and take meaningful steps toward rebuilding your relationship.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you take insurance?
No, I do not bill insurance directly. I can provide an invoice for your consultation that you may submit to your insurer for possible reimbursement or for your deductible. Coverage varies by plan and coaching/consultations are not always reimbursed. Please click here for details on insurance.
Can I use my health savings account (HSA) to pay you?
Often yes, but eligibility depends on your HSA/FSA administrator. Please click here for details on using your HSA and check with your plan for confirmation.
Do you do affair recovery coaching and consultations?
Yes. This is my specialty. I focus exclusively on helping individuals and couples heal from infidelity, rebuild trust, and recover from betrayal trauma through consultations and coaching.
Do you help with relationship challenges beyond infidelity?
Yes. Although affair recovery is my specialty, I also coach couples on communication, frequent conflict, and rebuilding connection. If you prefer ongoing weekly therapy, please reach out to one of my trusted colleagues: Colleague List.
How is a consultation different from therapy?
A consultation is a focused, goal-oriented meeting to help you gain clarity, learn skills, and make progress quickly. You will receive specific recommendations and next steps. Consultations and coaching are not psychotherapy or medical treatment.
What can we expect from working with you?
You can expect a supportive, non-judgmental environment. You will be heard and respected. I provide direct feedback and practical tools. I typically coach you on:
- how to talk so you both feel heard
- how to fight fairly and de-escalate
- how to resolve conflicts
- how to rebuild trust after an affair
- how to increase closeness and connection
- how to bring love and passion back to the marriage
- how to increase positivity
- how to improve quality time
- how to prevent your relationship from slipping
- how to handle problem areas like affairs, addictions, parenting, and trust
What methods do you draw from in coaching?
I blend research-backed approaches to help you get results efficiently. In a coaching context, I draw from principles in Gottman Method work, Emotionally Focused strategies, Narrative techniques, Cognitive Behavioral tools, Positive Psychology, Humanistic approaches, and trauma-informed practices for betrayal recovery.
What happens in the first consultation?
Every couple is unique, but we typically follow this plan:
(1) Brief History: how you met, major milestones, and what has changed.
(2) Current Concerns: what is happening now and what you have tried.
(3) Hopes and Goals: what you are wishing for and what would help most.
(4) Sample Conversation: a short discussion so I can observe patterns.
(5) Feedback and Action Plan: targeted recommendations and next steps.
How many sessions will I need?
That depends on your goals. Some couples schedule 1–2 consultations for assessment and direction. Others prefer monthly or bi-monthly meetings for guidance as they practice new skills. After severe crises, some choose ongoing coaching for a longer period.
If I need help, does it mean something is wrong with me?
No. The people I work with are capable, caring, and resourceful. It is simply hard to fix a relationship from inside the relationship. Coaching offers an experienced, objective perspective and a practical plan.