After infidelity, it’s natural to feel desperate for every detail, even the most intimate ones. Many betrayed partners believe that knowing everything will bring closure, but sexual specifics often make healing harder. These details can fuel intrusive thoughts, intensify trauma, and keep the affair alive in your mind. Learn why protecting yourself from the explicit details may be one of the most important steps toward recovery.

We often ask the wrong question when it comes to infidelity. Instead of wondering “How could they do something so immoral?” we might get closer to the truth by asking, “What kind of pain would drive someone to do something so out of character?” One of the most common things I hear from betrayed partners is: “But they knew it was wrong!” And yes, most people...

After working with thousands of couples and observing what truly helps relationships recover, I’ve noticed something important: five key traits show up again and again in couples who successfully heal from infidelity. These traits do not require perfection, they require intention. I’ve seen them in every couple who has made it through. So if you’re hoping to heal, take a page from these couples. Do your best to practice these traits and weave them into your relationship.