"My wife and I are very different people. We have different interests and different ways of looking at the world. Is this a bad sign for our marriage?" - Mike C, ColoradoHi Mike. I think this is just fine and is not a bad sign of anything. However, because you guys have very different interests, ... View Post

Throughout the year, many people write in with questions about how to boost their marriage. I imagine you have many of the same questions and so I wanted to share my answers with you... What I really want you to know is that YOUR MARRIAGE CAN GET BETTER AND BETTER. If things are good now, wonderful! It's a great time to do some fine tuning so that you can always be at the top of your game.Save

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I was talking to a reporter at CNN the other day, answering questions about another matter entirely, and she asked... "Do you mind giving me some advice? What can I do if I am the only one who wants to work on my marriage?" Of course I was happy to help her and her question was so important that ... View Post

If you’re thinking seriously about divorce, you must be suffering deeply and believe that your relationship will never get better. I understand. Few things are more painful than a complicated relationship and I can understand why you’d like to throw in the towel. But before you do, I’d really lik... View Post

Are you struggling to get through the day because your mind is filled with thoughts about your relationship problems? Do you find that you get triggered every 3 minutes to think about what's wrong in your marriage? Feel panicked or worried constantly? This list is for you! Here are 5 foolproof, p... View Post

Have you noticed that there are some people who are just really, truly happy? That these same people can be happy, even when life is hard or bad things happen? Have you wondered how they do that; how they can be that positive, that optimistic? Fortunately, happiness is not limited to the lucky fe... View Post

It never fails. Whenever I'm introduced to someone at a dinner party and they learn that I am a marriage counselor, the first question they ask is: "So does marriage counseling actually work?" They usually know someone that didn't have a great experience in couples counseling or they've read an a... View Post

If you find yourself preparing for a 730 evaluation, you’re probably filled with a lot of anxiety and worry. I am sorry, I know this is a very stressful time and a very emotionally exhausting experience. Hang in there. You can do this and you can do it well, you just need to calm yourself down an... View Post