Dr Kathy's Blog


  • Do you love Chip & Joanna Gaines from HGTV's Fixer Upper as much as I do? They're just such sweet and genuine people, not to mention ridiculously talented! What I admire most about Chip & Joanna is that they have a really lovely relationship. And there's a lot we can all learn from them on how to keep our marriages happy and healthy! Here are 5 things Chip & Joanna can teach you about how to have a truly great marriage... View Post
  • Are you wondering how to repair your relationship? Feeling a bit frustrated by all of the information online and all of the different how-to articles? I understand and assure you, you're not alone. It is confusing! In fact, it was confusing for a lot of therapists too, until the amazing John Gottman, PhD and his team at the Seattle Love Lab started to scientifically study couples in happy (and some not-so-happy) marriages.

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  • A few weeks ago, I found myself grumbling about all the things on my holiday to-do list... "I have to address all the cards." "I have to see who I have gifts for and who I still need to shop for." "I have to take Dad out to do his shopping." ...and on and on. I have to, I have to, I have to! Fina... View Post
  • More and more, people are coming to talk to me about a spouse or a loved one who is suffering from a personality disorder, usually borderline personality disorder (BPD). If someone you love has been diagnosed with BPD, or if you suspect that they may be suffering from BPD, this page is for you! I... View Post
  • "What can I do to make my husband feel really loved? Not like he's just some repair guy living at the house, but really loved." - Michele, Arizona. Hi Michele. LOL. Yes, we don't want your husband feeling like he's just a repair guy!The answer to your question is that it depends on what makes HIM... View Post
  • "My wife and I are very different people. We have different interests and different ways of looking at the world. Is this a bad sign for our marriage?" - Mike C, ColoradoHi Mike. I think this is just fine and is not a bad sign of anything. However, because you guys have very different interests, ... View Post
  • Throughout the year, many people write in with questions about how to boost their marriage. I imagine you have many of the same questions and so I wanted to share my answers with you... What I really want you to know is that YOUR MARRIAGE CAN GET BETTER AND BETTER. If things are good now, wonderful! It's a great time to do some fine tuning so that you can always be at the top of your game.Save

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  • We all love love. We all want to be loved and feel truly, deeply valued. But did you know that we all love differently? Turns out that we receive love in unique and personal ways. You might feel most cherished when someone gives you a stunning bouquet of flowers and a touching, hand-written note... while your best friend most appreciates a dinner out and someone to help her clean the house.

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