"What can I do to make my husband feel really loved? Not like he's just some repair guy living at the house, but really loved." - Michele, Arizona.
Hi Michele. LOL. Yes, we don't want your husband feeling like he's just a repair guy!
The answer to your question is that it depends on what makes HIM feel really loved
It's important to talk with him and find out what matters most to him. A great way to start the conversation is to read the Five Love Languages Blog Post and then discuss what you learned.
Through that conversation, I hope you can both discover a little more about how to make each other feel more loved.
One interesting finding from a bunch of research on what makes people feel loved is that we all crave being listened to. In one study, listening to your spouse for 20 minutes earned as much "value" as kissing, hugging, and other physical activities. So my best advice for making anyone feel loved is to ask what's on their mind and then really listen and empathize. It works every time!
Please write me back if you need more help. Good luck!