"I really don't know what to do, Dr. K. My wife has no interest in doing any of the things you recommend for building trust after an affair. I learned about her 2 year affair with a friend from High School last Thanksgiving. Since I found out, she's seen him at least once, talked to him a few tim... View Post

"Can we get over an affair? How do we start to heal?" - Soraya, Australia. Hi Soraya. That's a very big and important question... thanks for being brave enough to ask it. First things first, I want you to know that YOU CAN HEAL from this. Affairs are really common, much more than we know or think... View Post

"I found a second cell phone in my husband's car and when I went through it, it became clear he is having an affair. I am beyond devastated. I am sick to my stomach and I'm looking for some hope. Is there any chance that we can get over this? Does infidelity mean my marriage is over for sure?" - ... View Post

"My husband discovered my affair 2 weeks ago and we've been talking about it every day since. I think things are getting better, but he keeps asking harder and harder questions. He really wants to know sexual details. What questions should I answer about my affair? Should I answer anything he ask... View Post

"Dr. Kathy, my wife found out I cheated and now she wants to track me, my phone, and basically be able to check up on me whenever she wants. Is this a good idea?" - Joel, South Dakota Hi Joel, thanks for the question. The short answer is yes, it IS a good idea.After an affair has been discovered,... View Post

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with a dear friend and ask her about a very painful subject - her husband's affair.Her story is probably a lot like yours. She'd been married for several years, they had a young child, she was busy juggling work and home life. She thought everything was ... View Post

If your spouse just found out about your affair, I imagine your world has turned upside down. You're probably feeling very scared and confused. You might also feel incredible anguish and shame, especially when you see the look of pain on your spouse's face. You can tell what a huge impact your af... View Post

If you've just discovered that your spouse had an affair, I am so sorry. You must feel shocked, devastated, betrayed, horrified, blind-sided, and profoundly hurt. I want to reassure you... You CAN get through this. This doesn't mean your marriage or relationship is over. This doesn't mean your p... View Post