"My husband discovered my affair 2 weeks ago and we've been talking about it every day since. I think things are getting better, but he keeps asking harder and harder questions. He really wants to know sexual details. What questions should I answer about my affair? Should I answer anything he ask... View Post

"Dr. Kathy, my wife found out I cheated and now she wants to track me, my phone, and basically be able to check up on me whenever she wants. Is this a good idea?" - Joel, South Dakota Hi Joel, thanks for the question. The short answer is yes, it IS a good idea.After an affair has been discovered,... View Post

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with a dear friend and ask her about a very painful subject - her husband's affair.Her story is probably a lot like yours. She'd been married for several years, they had a young child, she was busy juggling work and home life. She thought everything was ... View Post

If your spouse just found out about your affair, I imagine your world has turned upside down. You're probably feeling very scared and confused. You might also feel incredible anguish and shame, especially when you see the look of pain on your spouse's face. You can tell what a huge impact your af... View Post

If you've just discovered that your spouse had an affair, I am so sorry. You must feel shocked, devastated, betrayed, horrified, blind-sided, and profoundly hurt. I want to reassure you... You CAN get through this. This doesn't mean your marriage or relationship is over. This doesn't mean your p... View Post

If you are struggling to heal from an affair, look closely at your behavior for these subtle – and not-so-subtle – sabotages that could be hurting you. You’re profoundly hurt. Your world has been turned upside down. Things that were once comfortable and familiar now feel painful and unsafe. I un... View Post