Are you struggling to get through the day because your mind is filled with thoughts about your relationship problems? Do you find that you get triggered every 3 minutes to think about what's wrong in your marriage? Feel panicked or worried constantly? This list is for you! Here are 5 foolproof, p... View Post

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with a dear friend and ask her about a very painful subject - her husband's affair.Her story is probably a lot like yours. She'd been married for several years, they had a young child, she was busy juggling work and home life. She thought everything was ... View Post

Have you noticed that there are some people who are just really, truly happy? That these same people can be happy, even when life is hard or bad things happen? Have you wondered how they do that; how they can be that positive, that optimistic? Fortunately, happiness is not limited to the lucky fe... View Post

If your spouse just found out about your affair, I imagine your world has turned upside down. You're probably feeling very scared and confused. You might also feel incredible anguish and shame, especially when you see the look of pain on your spouse's face. You can tell what a huge impact your af... View Post

If you've just discovered that your spouse had an affair, I am so sorry. You must feel shocked, devastated, betrayed, horrified, blind-sided, and profoundly hurt. I want to reassure you... You CAN get through this. This doesn't mean your marriage or relationship is over. This doesn't mean your p... View Post

Henry Winkler brilliantly said, "Assumptions are the termites of relationships." So true! When we make assumptions, we are taking a mental shortcut. We are effectively trying to guess at what the outcome of a situation will be and hoping to save ourselves some time or work by predicting the endin... View Post

It never fails. Whenever I'm introduced to someone at a dinner party and they learn that I am a marriage counselor, the first question they ask is: "So does marriage counseling actually work?" They usually know someone that didn't have a great experience in couples counseling or they've read an a... View Post

The Huffington Post recently featured an interview and video with well-known pastor Rob Bell and his wife. In the interview, Rob and Kristen reveal the thing they think is most critical to a healthy marriage: knowing how to fight fair. I couldn't agree more. We tend to think that we should NEVER ... View Post