If you want to quickly get over a fight with your husband or wife, you need to focus on one thing: listening! The problem is, when we're upset, this is really hard to do.... Most of us think that the best way to work through an issue is to poke holes in the other person's argument and tell them how silly they are for thinking the way they do...

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Throughout the year, many people write in with questions about how to boost their marriage. I imagine you have many of the same questions and so I wanted to share my answers with you... What I really want you to know is that YOUR MARRIAGE CAN GET BETTER AND BETTER. If things are good now, wonderful! It's a great time to do some fine tuning so that you can always be at the top of your game.Save

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Small confession.... I love spy movies. James Bond, Jason Bourne, Ethan Hunt... I love them all! So I was very excited to go see the new Stephen Spielberg thriller, Bridge of Spies, yesterday. In the film, a successful New York attorney, Jim Donovan, is asked by the CIA to help negotiate the release of two Americans captured during the Cold War. A really great story and beautifully told. 2 lines from the film can help your relationship...

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Feel like you and your spouse are out of touch? Are you each plopped down on the couch every night, living in separate worlds, one of you on the iPad, the other one reading or watching a show? Feel like you're more roommates than spouses? If you can relate, you're not alone! As we settle into our... View Post

I was talking to a reporter at CNN the other day, answering questions about another matter entirely, and she asked... "Do you mind giving me some advice? What can I do if I am the only one who wants to work on my marriage?" Of course I was happy to help her and her question was so important that ... View Post

If you’re thinking seriously about divorce, you must be suffering deeply and believe that your relationship will never get better. I understand. Few things are more painful than a complicated relationship and I can understand why you’d like to throw in the towel. But before you do, I’d really lik... View Post

Are you struggling to get through the day because your mind is filled with thoughts about your relationship problems? Do you find that you get triggered every 3 minutes to think about what's wrong in your marriage? Feel panicked or worried constantly? This list is for you! Here are 5 foolproof, p... View Post

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with a dear friend and ask her about a very painful subject - her husband's affair.Her story is probably a lot like yours. She'd been married for several years, they had a young child, she was busy juggling work and home life. She thought everything was ... View Post