Dr Kathy's Blog

  • What Can I Do To Make My Husband Feel Really Loved?

    "What can I do to make my husband feel really loved? Not like he's just some repair guy living at the house, but really loved." - Michele, Arizona. Hi Michele. LOL. Yes, we don't want your husband feeling like he's just a repair guy!The answer to your question is that it depends on what makes HIM... View Post

  • How Do We Prioritize Each Other When We're Both So Busy?

    "How do we prioritize each other when we're both so busy?" - Sandra, UK. Hi there, Sandra. This is a challenge for lots of us! Life is really so busy, finding time for the people who matter most is tough. Here are a few things that will help you... Stay in touch with your spouse throughout the da... View Post

  • We Are Very Different - Is This Bad For Our Marriage?

    "My wife and I are very different people. We have different interests and different ways of looking at the world. Is this a bad sign for our marriage?" - Mike C, ColoradoHi Mike. I think this is just fine and is not a bad sign of anything. However, because you guys have very different interests, ... View Post

  • How Do I Tell Him I Just Want Him To Listen?

    "My husband never lets me vent, he immediately goes into fix-it mode. How do I tell him I just want him to listen to me?" - Kathyrn, UtahHi Kathryn. You know what? I think you should just tell him exactly that. It's ok for you to start a conversation by saying, "Honey, I am really upset and I jus... View Post

  • How Can We Communicate Better?

    "We're not great at communicating. Many of our conversations end in a fight. Or worse, we both shut down, stop talking and nothing ever gets resolved. How can we communicate better so that we never lose the spark?" -Sonia, AlaskaGreat question, Sonia. There are a few things that are absolutely c... View Post

  • Does Infidelity Mean My Marriage Is Over?

    "I found a second cell phone in my husband's car and when I went through it, it became clear he is having an affair. I am beyond devastated. I am sick to my stomach and I'm looking for some hope. Is there any chance that we can get over this? Does infidelity mean my marriage is over for sure?" - ... View Post

  • Should I Answer All Questions - Even Sexual Ones - About My Affair?

    "My husband discovered my affair 2 weeks ago and we've been talking about it every day since. I think things are getting better, but he keeps asking harder and harder questions. He really wants to know sexual details. What questions should I answer about my affair? Should I answer anything he ask... View Post

  • Should I Let My Wife Track Me?

    "Dr. Kathy, my wife found out I cheated and now she wants to track me, my phone, and basically be able to check up on me whenever she wants. Is this a good idea?" - Joel, South Dakota Hi Joel, thanks for the question. The short answer is yes, it IS a good idea.After an affair has been discovered,... View Post