Dr Kathy's Blog

  • My Spouse Just Found Out About My Affair - Now What?

    If your spouse just found out about your affair, there are a few things you should do right away... 1. Offer to talk, but don't push. Your spouse may or may not want to talk. Don't push, allow them to do what feels right to them. If they want to yell and scream, that is ok. Take breaks as need... View Post

  • Should We Stay Together For The Kids? | Q&A with Dr. K

    Eric writes, "Dr. K, should we stay together for our kids? I've been married for 14 years and honestly, the last 5 have been miserable. We have two kids that I adore and they're the reason I have been trying to make it work, but I just can't do it anymore..." View Post

  • What If I Have No Sex Drive? | Q&A with Dr. K

    Alyshia asks, "Hi Dr. K, my question is about sex drive... I just don't have one anymore!  I just don't really have any desire to be intimate with my husband (or anyone). Life is busy, I have so much going on, sex feels like a chore. I know it's important for my marriage. What can I do to get myself in the mood?" View Post

  • Help, I Really Don't Like My Wife Anymore | Q&A with Dr. K

    Jason writes in, "Hey Dr. Kathy, I hope you can help me with my problem. The thing is, I am not in love with my wife anymore. I am not even sure I like her any more. We have 3 kids, so I don't just want to give up, but I am close. Is there anything I can do? Is it possible to fall back in love with someone?" View Post

  • 20 Ways We've Kept Our Marriage Happy & Healthy For 20 Years

    Today is my 20th wedding anniversary and to celebrate this milestone, I thought I'd share the 20 things we do to keep our marriage happy and healthy! 1. Talk nicely to each other, especially when you're mad. 2. Really be a partner, jump in there and help, don't wait to be asked. 3. Make time for each other, every day and every week. 4. Support each other's passions.

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  • What If I Already Told Everyone He Cheated? | Q&A with Dr. K

    Dr. K -  I did have a question (maybe 2)... Last week, I discovered that my husband was having an “online affair” with a coworker and it had been going on for about a year (or so I’m told) and he swears that it never went further than emails, as explicit as they were. However, I only discovered this had been going on for a year the day after I initially... View Post

  • How Do I Tell My Boyfriend / Husband That I Know He Cheated?

    Telling your partner that you know he or she had an affair is an extremely scary idea. In this post, we'll go over how to prepare for the conversation and exactly what to say, so you can move on and heal. I've included a sample script for you to use to plan out what to say. View Post

  • How One Little Word Made My Life So Much Better

    A few weeks ago, I found myself grumbling about all the things on my holiday to-do list... "I have to address all the cards." "I have to see who I have gifts for and who I still need to shop for." "I have to take Dad out to do his shopping." ...and on and on. I have to, I have to, I have to! Fina... View Post