Dr Kathy's Blog

  • "Basically, I feel like my husband and I are just roommates. How do we stop just going through the motions and get our spark back?" - Anna, CA. Hi Anna. Thanks for reaching out.... I am sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling like the spark is gone and that the two of you are roommates. Let me rea... View Post
  • "I really don't know what to do, Dr. K. My wife has no interest in doing any of the things you recommend for building trust after an affair. I learned about her 2 year affair with a friend from High School last Thanksgiving. Since I found out, she's seen him at least once, talked to him a few tim... View Post
  • A few weeks ago, I found myself grumbling about all the things on my holiday to-do list... "I have to address all the cards." "I have to see who I have gifts for and who I still need to shop for." "I have to take Dad out to do his shopping." ...and on and on. I have to, I have to, I have to! Fina... View Post
  • Ever feel like the two of you are more like roommates than partners? If you're worried that you're not very close anymore, that you're disconnected, and that the passion is gone.... don't worry. These feelings can easily grow back with just a few, simple steps!

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  • "Dr. Kathy, I am really scared. I think my marriage might be over and that I am the only one willing to do anything. What can I do to make it better?" - Dominica, New York. Hi Dominica. I am so sorry to hear this. I am sure you are scared and I can understand why, but hang in there... I bet there... View Post
  • "Can we get over an affair? How do we start to heal?" - Soraya, Australia. Hi Soraya. That's a very big and important question... thanks for being brave enough to ask it. First things first, I want you to know that YOU CAN HEAL from this. Affairs are really common, much more than we know or think... View Post
  • "My partner and I have different expectations about our relationship and we both tend to make assumptions about how things should be. What should I do?" -David, Washington. Hi David. Yes, it's important to address that and do a couple of things... The first thing to do is read this blog post on R... View Post
  • "What can I do to make my husband feel really loved? Not like he's just some repair guy living at the house, but really loved." - Michele, Arizona. Hi Michele. LOL. Yes, we don't want your husband feeling like he's just a repair guy!The answer to your question is that it depends on what makes HIM... View Post