Dr Kathy's Blog

  • Emotional abuse is quite common and can be really hard to detect. I've taken care of countless men and women - smart, beautiful, amazing women - who have found themselves in very abusive relationships. They all worry that they're the damaged one for not seeing this beforehand. That they should have predicted it, they should have seen the signs, that they shouldn't "have been so stupid." View Post
  • Most of us wish we could erase our bad memories. Unfortunately, bad memories are common and a normal part of life... but some memories hurt a lot more than others.This is especially true for someone who's experienced a trauma in their relationship, like an affair. We have developed a memory erasing technique called EMDR and I've modified the technique so you can do it at home. View Post
  • As we enter the third month of the pandemic, you are undoubtedly feeling exhausted and really tired of sheltering-at-home. You might even be thinking about giving up on your relationship... because after being together 24/7 during the quarantine, you're 95% sure you're incompatible. Please hold on... View Post
  • In times like these, we all feel a little lost, scared, and overwhelmed. You might have some very real problems right now - maybe you're worried about how you'll pay your rent, how you'll afford your medicine, or how you'll survive quarantine with your kiddos. Here's a list of resources to help you get the help you need. View Post
  • None of us was expecting this... the sudden shift in our world and the complete loss of normalcy caused by the coronavirus. As of today, much of the US is on lockdown to prevent the spread of COVID-19 and it feels like overnight, the world as we knew it is gone. To help you cope, I have put together a few tips to help you manage your fear and anxiety about coronavirus... View Post
  • Think your relationship could use a little fine-tuning, but don't know how to talk to your partner about it? You're not alone. Couples counseling gets a bad rap. Many people think that relationship counseling is all about fighting, confronting, and having huge emotional blow-ups. Truth is... it shouldn't be like this at all!

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  • If you've recently had an affair... or if you discovered that your wife or partner cheated... you're probably struggling to understand why. Truth is, infidelity is common and I believe that most people who cheat are trying to deal with some pain they're experiencing. Women cheat at about the same rate as men, but women's infidelity is talked about a lot less often... View Post
  • As we wrap up 2019, it's time to think about what you really want for yourself and your relationship in the new year. Do you want to fight less? Communicate more effectively? Feel closer? No matter what your goal, the new year is a perfect time to spruce up your relationship. Here are a few things you can do to make yours shiny and bright as we start 2020... View Post