Dr Kathy's Blog

  • As we wrap up 2019, it's time to think about what you really want for yourself and your relationship in the new year. Do you want to fight less? Communicate more effectively? Feel closer? No matter what your goal, the new year is a perfect time to spruce up your relationship. Here are a few things you can do to make yours shiny and bright as we start 2020... View Post
  • The holidays aren't joyful for everyone. In fact, for many, the holidays remind us of what we're missing... or more specifically, who we're missing. My mother passed away suddenly 7 years ago, just before the holidays, and I remember the exquisite pain of that first Christmas. It was so overwhelming that my sister and I only had the energy to decorate a branch. View Post
  • Most of us go home for the holidays; many of us aren't looking forward to it. The number one reason: awkward and messy family conversations about politics. We all know the usual advice - don't talk about politics with family, don't poke the bear, just avoid it - but what if you can't? What if you... View Post
  • Does the thought of sitting down to a holiday meal with your family make you want to run away and hide? If so, you’re not alone. We all know the holidays are meant to be a joyous time, but for many, the holidays are a time when painful relationship issues, family problems, and toxic topics surface ….  And this create some very tense and unpleasant situations. View Post
  • Ratul asks: “Hey Dr. K, I’m 32 and my GF and I have been dating for 3 years. I’m thinking of proposing this New Year’s Eve, how do I know that we’re ready to get married?" Great question, Ratul. Here's my two cents... you know you're with the right person and ready to get married when:

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  • If you could only give a couple 3 pieces of advice to help them have a happy marriage, what would you say? This is exactly what a reporter asked me recently and honestly... it's a really tough question! But as I thought about it, I realized that there truly are a few things that make a critical difference. So here's how I answered her...

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  • If you've just discovered that your spouse had an affair, I am so sorry. You must feel shocked, devastated, betrayed, horrified, blind-sided, and profoundly hurt. I want to reassure you... ·You CAN get through this. ·This doesn't mean your marriage or relationship is over. ·This doesn't mean you... View Post
  • Jordan, one of our friends from Facebook, recently wrote in and asked for help..."Hi Dr. Kathy. I hope you can help us. Cindy and I have been married for 9 years and I love her very much. We have really hectic lives: we both work, our kids have us running around left and right, we barely have any time for ourselves or our relationship. We have been fighting a lot lately. In fact it's gotten so bad in the last couple of months that I've wondered if we're going to make it. Is there anything we can do? Please help. Thanks." And here's my answer to Jordan... View Post