Dr Kathy's Blog

  • Ratul asks: “Hey Dr. K, I’m 32 and my GF and I have been dating for 3 years. I’m thinking of proposing this New Year’s Eve, how do I know that we’re ready to get married?" Great question, Ratul. Here's my two cents... you know you're with the right person and ready to get married when:

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  • If you could only give a couple 3 pieces of advice to help them have a happy marriage, what would you say? This is exactly what a reporter asked me recently and honestly... it's a really tough question! But as I thought about it, I realized that there truly are a few things that make a critical difference. So here's how I answered her...

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  • If you've just discovered that your spouse had an affair, I am so sorry. You must feel shocked, devastated, betrayed, horrified, blind-sided, and profoundly hurt. I want to reassure you... ·You CAN get through this. ·This doesn't mean your marriage or relationship is over. ·This doesn't mean you... View Post
  • Jordan, one of our friends from Facebook, recently wrote in and asked for help..."Hi Dr. Kathy. I hope you can help us. Cindy and I have been married for 9 years and I love her very much. We have really hectic lives: we both work, our kids have us running around left and right, we barely have any time for ourselves or our relationship. We have been fighting a lot lately. In fact it's gotten so bad in the last couple of months that I've wondered if we're going to make it. Is there anything we can do? Please help. Thanks." And here's my answer to Jordan... View Post
  • If your spouse just found out about your affair, there are a few things you should do right away... 1. Offer to talk, but don't push. Your spouse may or may not want to talk. Don't push, allow them to do what feels right to them. If they want to yell and scream, that is ok. Take breaks as need... View Post
  • Eric writes, "Dr. K, should we stay together for our kids? I've been married for 14 years and honestly, the last 5 have been miserable. We have two kids that I adore and they're the reason I have been trying to make it work, but I just can't do it anymore..." View Post
  • Want to know how to fight less and communicate even better? From lots of tinkering and experimenting with hundreds of couples over the last 15 years, I can tell you what will really work to change your communication for good! Here are my "rules" for absolutely fabulous communication...

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  • Alyshia asks, "Hi Dr. K, my question is about sex drive... I just don't have one anymore!  I just don't really have any desire to be intimate with my husband (or anyone). Life is busy, I have so much going on, sex feels like a chore. I know it's important for my marriage. What can I do to get myself in the mood?" View Post