Dr Kathy's Blog

  • Carlos asks: "Can infidelity be forgiven? My wife found some inappropriate messages on my iPad and now she says she'll never get over it. Nothing physical happened, but... obviously, it was not good. Will she ever forgive me? I am worried our marriage will never recover." Dr. K answers : I am really sorry this is happening to you guys, you must be very scared and worried. The good news is that yes, infidelity CAN be forgiven... but it takes time.

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  • If you want your fights to be productive... and actually be beneficial to your relationship... you have to slow down and really listen to what your partner is saying. Then you have to validate their point of view, their feelings, and their perspective. Only AFTER you have done this should you try to argue for your point of view or explain your feelings. I've put together 3 short videos to show you exactly what to do. View Post
  • Happy couples DO do things a little differently. They are very intentional about creating a wonderful relationship and they are mindful about how they treat each other. If you're wondering if your marriage is going to last, check out these 5 things that couples with long-lasting relationships do differently and incorporate as many as you can into your relationship. View Post
  • Most of us wish we could erase our bad memories. Unfortunately, bad memories are common and a normal part of life... but some memories hurt a lot more than others.This is especially true for someone who's experienced a trauma in their relationship, like an affair. We have developed a memory erasing technique called EMDR and I've modified the technique so you can do it at home. View Post
  • As we enter the third month of the pandemic, you are undoubtedly feeling exhausted and really tired of sheltering-at-home. You might even be thinking about giving up on your relationship... because after being together 24/7 during the quarantine, you're 95% sure you're incompatible. Please hold on... View Post
  • In times like these, we all feel a little lost, scared, and overwhelmed. You might have some very real problems right now - maybe you're worried about how you'll pay your rent, how you'll afford your medicine, or how you'll survive quarantine with your kiddos. Here's a list of resources to help you get the help you need. View Post
  • None of us was expecting this... the sudden shift in our world and the complete loss of normalcy caused by the coronavirus. As of today, much of the US is on lockdown to prevent the spread of COVID-19 and it feels like overnight, the world as we knew it is gone. To help you cope, I have put together a few tips to help you manage your fear and anxiety about coronavirus... View Post
  • Think your relationship could use a little fine-tuning, but don't know how to talk to your partner about it? You're not alone. Couples counseling gets a bad rap. Many people think that relationship counseling is all about fighting, confronting, and having huge emotional blow-ups. Truth is... it shouldn't be like this at all!

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