Dr Kathy's Blog

  • A child's bond to their parents starts forming from the moment they are born. Children thrive in environments with close, continuous contact with their parents so they can feel safe, loved, and protected. Unfortunately, our modern lives have created a lot of demands that prevent us from devoting unlimited time to our kids. Many of us have to return to work quickly after giving birth and this causes a lot of stress on both the child and ourselves! View Post
  • Janine and Krystle Guerico made waves recently by announcing their platonic marriage on TikTok, saying "We act as a married couple does, but we don’t have the romantic or physical stuff.” Their video went viral and prompted over 10,000 comments! Their video also prompted several of you to reach out and ask me about platonic marriage. Here are your top questions about platonic marriage answered...

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  • We all want to be loved and feel truly, deeply valued. But did you know that we all love differently? Turns out that we receive love in unique and personal ways. If you want your partner and your friends to feel deeply loved, you definitely want to figure out their love langagues... so you can love them the way they crave to be loved!

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  • We live in a very stressful and intense world, so if you find yourself struggling to deal with anxiety, you are not alone. Most of us do too! One of the very best things you can do for yourself and those around you is to learn how to manage your anxiety. Let's talk about 10 different ways you can cope with stress and feel so much better... View Post
  • Carlos asks: "Can infidelity be forgiven? My wife found some inappropriate messages on my iPad and now she says she'll never get over it. Nothing physical happened, but... obviously, it was not good. Will she ever forgive me? I am worried our marriage will never recover." Dr. K answers : I am really sorry this is happening to you guys, you must be very scared and worried. The good news is that yes, infidelity CAN be forgiven... but it takes time.

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  • If you want your fights to be productive... and actually be beneficial to your relationship... you have to slow down and really listen to what your partner is saying. Then you have to validate their point of view, their feelings, and their perspective. Only AFTER you have done this should you try to argue for your point of view or explain your feelings. I've put together 3 short videos to show you exactly what to do. View Post
  • Happy couples DO do things a little differently. They are very intentional about creating a wonderful relationship and they are mindful about how they treat each other. If you're wondering if your marriage is going to last, check out these 5 things that couples with long-lasting relationships do differently and incorporate as many as you can into your relationship. View Post
  • Most of us wish we could erase our bad memories. Unfortunately, bad memories are common and a normal part of life... but some memories hurt a lot more than others.This is especially true for someone who's experienced a trauma in their relationship, like an affair. We have developed a memory erasing technique called EMDR and I've modified the technique so you can do it at home. View Post